How do you manage living a not so perfect views?
Having this title might have given you the intrigue on why I am writing about this.
We all have fairytale dream lives and I must say our own versions of that fairytales will always be the one worth dreaming, living and sharing.
I am highlighting some of the ideas of what I thought was missing or wrong and I hope to give you my personal realizations about it to maybe inspire you or help you in the areas they can possibly help you.
You might relate to me on this, that feeling that whatever you do does not please everyone or it’s not enough effort for them.
I had that, I needed to make sure that I do things that are desirable to the eyes of my critics. But one day I got tired and asked myself, “Wait, what is it for? Am I doing things to glorify people or Should I do what I believe I needed to do?
The solution?
Stop doing things thinking that you are not good enough or right enough to fulfill something worth doing. Because you are deserve to win at anything that you choose. It might not be winning now but do it anyway.
You will attract good people to you, excellent people or even people who can serve as bridge for you to realize that next big thing.
And you must accept it.
It’s part of the equilibrium, there will always be someone who will make a negative comment but someone who is positively improving you is always the better one to trust and listen to.
Yes but do you really need to fit in always? It can lead to frustration, unhappiness and even jealousy if you will try to be following the standards set by someone else.
A possible solution?
Achieving a peaceful life is not about fitting in. Because the standards or even observations expressed by others towards you now can change over time.
Don’t fit in but be you. The best version of you is that someone who is designed by you and maybe inspired by others but not for the sake of fitting in.
Look for ways to magnify your true potentials.
Do things that will empower your talent, your skills and your dreams.
Mobilizing your dreams begins from getting out of the controlled zoned of fitting in.
I had that feeling too. And it breaks my heart to feel it at some point but am I?
A big no no is to accept that you are not gifted or talented with something beautiful.
From the day your heart started beating you are special!
From the day you first felt the pain, pleasure, joy and health you are special!
And by the way, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so there will always be time for us to be called beautiful.
I have proven it. I remember when I was a kid I was bullied for being too dark and skinny.
But it is giving me a big smile on my face now and every time I remember someone, someone white, blue green-eyes and blond, how I was told cute, dark and with good looking eyes. Smile :-)
You see my skin, my brown or chocolate skin tone is my asset now. Smile again. :-)
I was told not tall enough to lead. But I did not want to become basketball player anyway so does it matter?
I always believe that our capacity to provide and feed our family is the number one measurement for men’s real masculinity.
My solution?
Stand up. Your height, weight, shortness, fatness or whatever name people may have called you in the past ends today and it's your birth right to make a new description of yourself. I hope you will. Be victorious, be adventurous, be free or be you!
Let me laugh at this!!! Your world is not meant to be a world fully dependent to money but purpose, time and freedom.
When I was 25 years old I had the opportunity to earn 12x bigger than most of the people at my age in some parts of Southeast Asia. It did not make my world perfect. But it gave me the privilege to choose and decide on what I truly want.
I need to decide for the better and not for the perfection.
Solution for you and me.
Let me be clear and careful here. I want you to succeed and dream big but do not make a pre-defined future out of nothingness or lacking some resources today.
Because in most of my business ventures just like many of the great men and women I know, started with almost nothing but are now making a good living. Do things regardless of not having a perfect condition to start because there will always be no perfect time.
And when you start making good amount of money. It is not money that makes you happy but what you do with your money.
You will learn your lessons when you have them. The goal here is not yet to teach you how to save it, grow it but while you do not have it - make it a goal to learn how to make money and decide why do you need such amount or wealth?
Completely disagreeable.
I used to think that when we become successful we will automatically become happy but over time I have seen unhappy people who are successful and also met people who are not yet successful but are very happy.
It’s about personal perspective.
And let me encourage you on this solution.
We cannot all start successful, but we can always all start happy and eventually successful later.
Do not be intimidated by the size of your dreams, be overwhelmed with happiness that you have the chance to work for your dream and be successful.
Turn your weakness to strength, your fear to courage and your nothingness to fullness. Live an wonderful life!
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